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Orgasm Control: His Body, Your Choice Pt2

BDSM play can encompass a wide range of sensual and seductive play areas. Fiendish games where it is possible to make a sub suffer and scream in agony without the presence of leather boots or raising a welt!  One of the cruellest of these is Orgasm Control where a sub is kept in a heightened state of arousal for extended periods with or without being permitted to orgasm. Thus keeping them in a continued state of heightened sexual anticipatory tension. Orgasms control can take many forms, so let explore a few of them… in Part 2 of this article.

Tie & Tease
The submissive is first restrained in bondage, granting the domme absolute control. This amplifies the sub’s helplessness and heightens his sexual frustration, creating a deliciously vulnerable state. Edging can then be introduced to maintain his arousal, keeping him hard and desperate, yet perpetually denied release. For an even more prolonged torment, a milking machine can be employed, holding him teetering on the brink for hours at a time.

A ‘Tie & Tease’, however, doesn’t necessarily involve ‘Edging’, as there are countless ways to sensually torment a bound sub without ever touching his cock. His nipples, balls, prostate, or perineum can be erotically or intensely stimulated, each producing powerful effects. Alternatively, you can opt for relentless ‘Prick Teasing’, mercilessly toying with his desire, teasing him with your body or other erotic antics, while he remains powerless. (See Part 1 of this article for more.)

Lock & Tease
Another tantalizing option is to tease a slave confined in a small chastity device, a practice I call ‘Lock & Tease’. By securing your slave’s cock in a cage and subjecting him to prolonged, deliberate teasing, you maintain him in a state of heightened sexual arousal, only to deny him release. For a woman, this power can be intoxicating. Keeping him weakened, desperate, and pleading for mercy renders him utterly pathetic, pliable, and attentive—completely at your command. His arousal becomes a tool, a lever you wield to manipulate him to your advantage, the epitome of male submission. There’s a perverse thrill in watching his flesh strain against the confines of the chastity device, the gaps bulging with his futile efforts. I just adore seeing those tell-tale tears of pre-cum weeping from his imprisoned cock, a testament to his torment and my control. I have had quite a few accidents despite the chastity cage being in place, at least it ruins the orgasm.

Tease & Denial
Never let him assume an orgasm is guaranteed when he’s engaged with you sexually. It’s not a given, it should be a privilege granted solely at your discretion or earned through his devotion, ideally after an extended period of enforced abstinence. You can use denial as a cruel tool, a wonderful femdom game of – will you or won’t you let him cum today? As he teeters on the edge, desperate and pleading for a release, you hold the power. You may give him ‘Permission To Cum’ or delivering a firm ‘Denied’, commanding him to cease all contact with himself immediately.

AstroDomina: Orgasm Control Expert

Faux Gelding
This is the process of training a male sub to become a true sex slave, molded to serve the sexual pleasure of his domme or others while receiving no relief of his own. It demands rigorous discipline, he must suppress his own desires, maintaining absolute control to prevent ejaculation, no matter how intense the stimulation. For those who falter, I find cock beatings to be a swift and effective punishment, reinforcing obedience with each transgression.

Total Denial & 247 Chastity
Total sexual denial typically entails prolonged, enforced sexual abstinence, orchestrated by a domme usually by means of a chastity device, but it can be verbally agreed. Sometimes called a ‘Chastity Promise’. Through this, the slave is trained to redirect his focus entirely onto her sexual pleasure, his own desires suppressed and sidelined. In some cases, he might earn a rare release through exemplary behavior, or be granted an occasional mechanical orgasm for health purposes. Conversely, a poorly behaved slave might face extended chastity as a punitive measure. A slave may choose total denial as a means of expressing his total devotion to his Domina.

For a domme, the thrill can be profound—knowing she holds the key to her sub’s chastity device, quite literally making her the ‘Keyholder’. This grants her unwavering control over his manhood, sexual urges and desires, a power that pulses through their D/s realtionship. Much like a slave collar, a chastity device serves as a symbol of ownership, but with the added allure of discretion. It can be worn secretly at all times, even in public, a constant reminder of her dominion and his status.

JOI & Cum Countdowns
A JOI ‘Jerk Off Instruction’ involves guiding a submissive through the act of masturbating or jerking their own cock, dictating every detail of his strokes -e.g. fast/slow; stop/start etc. This technique is ideal for online sessions or controlling a sub via video clips. However, they also work for in person D/s games. Often paired with a JOI is the ‘Cum Countdown’, where the Domina counts down from a chosen number, say, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 and the sub is expected to climax precisely at zero. Failure to cum on command results in swift consequences: orgasm denial and/or a return to chastity.

In these cruel orgasm control games, the psychological interplay is as potent as the physical. They weave dominance with denial, and if earned -gratification, keeping the sub ensnared in both mind, body and cock.

Read: Orgasm Control: His Body, Your Choice Pt1
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